Are you having problems climaxing and ejaculating during sex?
Have you been too embarrassed to get help before?
Is this problem now affecting your relationship?
Do you think that what is happening to you may have a psychological basis so you would like help with sex therapy and hypnotherapy?
Retarded ejaculation is when a man finds that he is unable to reach orgasm and ejaculate semen.
For some men it may take you a very long time to be able to orgasm and ejaculate to the extent that it becomes frustrating and uncomfortable for you.
In some cases you may be able to ejaculate but still not ejaculate semen.
This can be very embarrassing during sex when your partner may think that you do not like them or are not attracted to them because you do not ejaculate.
Although you may maintain an erection for a long time, you never reach what is called the resolution stage of the sexual cycle.
Some men get used to the situation and resign themselves to the fact that they do not ejaculate. Others experiencing retarded ejaculation may ejaculate during masturbation but not during sexual intercourse, which can add to the confusion.
Are you aware that many sexual behaviour patterns are learnt and influenced by earlier experiences?
There is primary and second retarded ejaculation.
Primary retarded ejaculation
In primary retarded ejaculation you have never been able to orgasm and ejaculate previously.
You may have no problem getting and maintaining an erection but that is as far as your sexual experience goes.
In some cases this may be due to physiological mechanical differences. If that is so it will need to be clinically investigated through a medical examination as some of the tubes for ejaculation may be blocked or there can be damage to various sections of the pudendal nerve that sends signals to and from the penis and pubic region.
Secondary retarded ejaculation
In secondary retarded ejaculation or delayed ejaculation, you once had good sexual function with your sexual performance and were able to reach ejaculation and orgasm.
For some reason that has changed and we need to find out why that has happened.
It may have been a physical change or a psychological change derived from some kind of traumatic encounter that has left problems deep in your unconscious mind.
Even if you have primary retarded ejaculation, at times the source of the problem may be psychological.
Did you know that psychosexual hypnotherapy can help you change the way you experience sex?
Since I am a naturopath as well as a clinical hypnotherapist (I also teach hypnotherapists how to use hypnosis within sex therapy) and psychosexual therapist (member of the Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists NSW), I take a full medical history with retarded or delayed ejaculation treatment and may order blood tests so that we can see what is happening with you.
Sometimes I prescribe herbs or make other recommendations, including referrals for medications.
Many men can be afraid or embarrassed to talk to other people about retarded ejaculation, but you can rest assured your information will be kept in a confidential, professional environment.
In cases where there are psychological reasons for retarded ejaculation, I would use sex therapy and hypnotherapy to help change your mindset and allow you to ejaculate earlier.
As a trainer who teaches therapists about hypnosis and sex therapy I am all too aware that you need to find the best help you can to change your psychology to allow you to enjoy ejaculation.
The important thing is not to be afraid or embarrassed about seeking help because many men have been helped to overcome this problem.
Sex therapy and hypnotherapy can prove very effective. Many techniques can be employed within the clinical environment to help you go forward and fully enjoy the whole of the sex cycle, leading to orgasm and ejaculation.