People in relationships get into trouble or should I say relationships get into trouble.
I say this because the relationship is just as much alive or tired or dysfunctional as the people engaging with each other.
What tends to happen very often, however, is that people’s egos get in the way of resolving the situation.
If you are spending more money on your car, television, clothes or hair than you are on your relationship, it may be worth considering how you can do things differently.
When one person in a relationship has problem, so does the other (or others).
Counselling is when a professionally trained counsellor helps someone or families to resolve their problems and develop a stronger sense of self-worth and capability. Many of us at times need a little help to find a personal sense of direction that can best serve our needs and desires.
Relationships work systemically, whatever kind of relationship you may be having.
When the system is not working well, the people will be stressed, unhappy, angry and resentful and you may move into the position of blaming yourself or the other person.
This is a defensive, counter-productive way of relating which helps no one.
Relationships, couples and marriage counselling can help you both come to a more resourceful and constructive place and do the work you need to do to repair and reinvigorate the relationship.
My experience in counselling started in the early 1970s and throughout the years I have worked in many fields, on both a voluntary and a professional basis.
I have worked with the homeless, people with HIV and AIDS, sex workers, members of the sex and/or gender diverse community, in the health systems and corporate sector.
I have also provided extensive marriage counselling, relationship counselling and family therapy services in London and Sydney.
As a counsellor much of my work deals with one-to-one counselling of individuals from all walks of life, who have identified themselves as having emotional difficulties.
Some people come into my practice in an extremely upset and confused state, looking for help and guidance.
This give me vast insight into how individuals work within relationships so that when I am working with couples I can work with both the couple as a unit and with the individual in the relationship to create synchronicity.
Some couples come along to work through some issues in their life or relationships so they can operate in a better or more effective way.
Other people may find themselves unable to cope emotionally and they need someone to help them get back on the road to happiness.
If you get your car fixed, house painted, suit cleaned, doesn’t it make sense to employ a professional to help make your relationship better?
Counselling is a space where people can feel safe talking through their problems in confidence, knowing that the time is exclusively dedicated to their needs.
In counselling, a totally non-judgmental atmosphere is set up, so whatever background you come from or situations you bring, we find a way forward to help you.
In addition to being a counsellor, I am a highly trained and experienced hypnotherapist and psychotherapist in Sydney.
Book your hypnotherapy appointment with Dr Tracie O’Keefe DCH by calling 02 8021 6429.
