I will help you with communication skills hypnosis. As a clinical hypnotherapist (AHA), psychotherapist, mental health professional (PACFA) and communications expert I help you change your communications patterns fast. It doesn’t matter if you have communication problems or just want to become a better communicator.
As a naturopath I’m also looking to see if there are physical problems that interfere with you being great a communicator.
These you often don’t realise yourself but as a health professional I am able to detect many of them and help you change what is happening.
You may even qualify for some healthfund rebates. If the help is for your business skills, you will get a tax-deductible invoice.
Your life will certainly be better and happier with good communication skills.
How to have better communication skills?
How are your communication skills and are they serving you?
As a human being you are generally ruled by your emotions. As a good communicator it’s important to guide those emotions so your communication produces positive outcomes.
Whether you communicate in relationships, with family, friends or in the workplace, it is important to control those emotions.
What is also necessary is to construct and use language in ways the other person can understand.
The language of communication
One of the things we learn as children is the basic understanding of a language. That however might not include how to use language to create positive communications. (1)
What you mean to say might not always be what comes out of your mouth. It gets distorted along the way, so you end up saying something you didn’t intend to.
Even very small changes in sentences and how you construct them can profoundly affect the quality of your communications. It’s well worth studying the mechanics of language just as you would get a swimming coach to help you learn to swim.
The second part of language analysis is the need to be able to peel back the meaning of other people’s sentences. This helps you understand if they are managing to say what they are trying to say; and what it is that they are trying to communicate.
The importance of body language
Our body language is coded neurologically to give messages to others and ourselves. Every placement of the arms, legs, tilt of the head and expression on the face delivers a communication.
Sometimes those communications align with what we’re saying and sometimes they don’t. When both communications match it becomes a strong and clear communication. (2)
When they don’t match it portrays confusion, lack of confidence in what you are saying or you’re just not telling the truth.
Since body language is 60% of our communications there’s a need for you to learn to use yours effectively to communicate. It doesn’t come naturally so again coaching can help you correct the errors you may be making.
What when people are lying?
The truth is people lie a lot of the time for so many reasons and sometimes those lies are designed to hurt you or deny you benefits.
People begin to make up lies when they are afraid that the truth will hurt them. Once they are in the lie, they find it difficult to back out of the false situation they have created.
They may even know you and other people know they are lying but they can’t admit it themselves. This may make you feel cheated and disrespected but remember it may not be about you.
Remember we all make mistakes because we are all human and the lying person is human too. They have gotten themselves in as much difficulty by lying as you are in by them lying to you. (3)
Sometimes you may need to challenge the lie so try to do that calmly and remember that it’s the lie you are challenging not the person. But if the lie is not that important, despite it being frustrating, move on with your life.
Is your ego getting in the way?
We communicate from a place of self-preservation, protecting ourselves and our human and non-human investments. The only time we don’t do that is to preserve others like a partner or offspring who may be carrying our legacy, so we sacrifice ourselves, so they survive.
We also seek to prosper and try to talk ourselves into more advantageous circumstances and opportunities. This is part of our survival instinct that seeks to help us have more advantages.
This requires us to see ourselves as important. The more we try to push ourselves forward the more our ego is involved. The danger is when our ego (sense of importance) becomes too strong in the moment, we are unable to see the big picture. We have become ego centric which damages our communication skill.
We all do it, presume others share our perspective and must check our egos. (4) More humility in communicating then helps people listen more carefully to what we say.
Learning to improve your communications
There is no age limit on learning to improve your communication. Whether we are a child or a senior we all need to correct and improve our communications all the time.
As mentioned earlier our emotions can get in the way of good communication at any time of our lives. (5) We are supposed to experience a wide range of emotions because this is part of our genetics programing. It’s part of coding for survival.
If you deny those emotions and push them down inside, they make you sick and neurotic. If you allow them to run wide your reptilian brain (at the back of your head) takes over and your neo cortex (the analytical part of your brain at the front) shuts down.
So, you must learn to do a balancing act between emotions and clear communications.
Book your appointment for hypnotherapy to improve your communication skills with Dr Tracie O’Keefe DCH by calling 0403 398 808.
References
(1) Abdikarimova, M., Tashieva, N., Tashbolot kyzy, A., & Abdullaeva, Z. (2021). Developing students’ verbal communication skills and speech etiquette in English language teaching. Open Journal of Modern Linguistics, 11(9), 1219–1231. https://doi.org/10.4236/ojml.2021.119094
(2) De Stefani, E., & De Marco, D. (2019). Language, gesture, and emotional communication: An embodied view of social interaction. Frontiers in Psychology, 10, 2060. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02060
(3) Preuter, S., Jaeger, B., & Stel, M. (2023). The costs of lying: Consequences of telling lies on liar’s self-esteem. British Journal of Social Psychology, 63(1), 155–174. https://doi.org/10.1111/bjso.12711
(4) Universal patterns in egocentric communication networks. (2023). Nature Communications, 14, Article 5222. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41467-023-40888-5
(5) Dennison, J. (2023). Emotions: Functions and significance for attitudes, behaviour, and communication. Migration Studies, 12(1), 1–21. https://doi.org/10.1093/migration/mnad031
