Many people have commitment issues. Are you one of them? Well, it all comes down to whether your actions match your words. It’s so easy to say ‘I will love you forever’ in the early stages of a relationship when lust and romanticism are high. You’re hot to trot and the only person that gets… Read More
Posts about family and relationships including how marriage counselling, relationships counselling and family counselling and help.
Why trust is essential for a strong relationship or marriage
In my clinic in Sydney where I see people for marriage guidance and relationship problems, I always tell them the first thing that relationships are built on is trust. When you are in a long-term relationship you depend on the other person to support you and have your back in difficult times. So, it follows… Read More
How to rescue your failing relationship
Throughout the Western world divorce rates range from about 10% – 50% depending on your country and culture. This does not include the splitting up of people who live together without getting married or emerging divorce rates from marriage equality figures that have not yet been factored into statistics. The reasons people dissolve their relationships… Read More
How do you deal with difficult relatives and family arguments?
As a family therapist I see families who are often torn apart by family arguments of two or more particular relatives. It may even be a couple of members in a family who work in co-ordination to disadvantage or demean other members of the family by bullying or feeding family arguments. Well, you can indeed… Read More
Side-effects of ADHD Medications on Children
Children are adults in the making. In other words their brains are being shaped and trained. The problem with labelling children with Attention Deficiency Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) is that it assumes the child’s’ brain and mind cannot be shaped and formed differently than how they currently present. Through the study of neuroplasticity (formation and reformation… Read More
When love changes
I am married to a different person every year. That makes me sound like I can’t hold down a relationship, although the opposite is actually the truth. Did I sign up 20-plus years ago for the person I live with today? No. I signed up for the person they used to be. Let me put… Read More
What should I do if my partner or loved one may be an alcoholic or have a drug problem?
I constantly get telephone calls from relatives, partners and friends of people who are alcoholics or are out of control in their use of recreational drugs. They telephone my clinic with three basic concerns. Here is how the conversation generally goes: Barry: “My daughter has a drinking problem and I think she should be in… Read More
Are You Experiencing An Emotional Breakdown from a Relationship Break-up?
As human beings we have natural instincts to pair up and bond. We can’t help it. Our emotions take over and bypass the logical parts of our brains and we are swept away with a sense that we absolutely must be with the other person. We go to endless measures to build and maintain that… Read More
Will Divorce and Separation Harm My Children?
It is an interesting question and one that many couples preparing to break up ask themselves. And there is no absolute answer. It depends on your particular family type. If you’re a family of a very close knit kin and you are very attached to each other and suddenly divorce happens, children will suffer separation… Read More
How to Recover from Divorce or Separation Video
Are you going through or have gone through a divorce or separation? It can be emotionally devastating. But while grief is a normal part of processing loss, if you get stuck for months or years in a loop of depression, it can keep you stuck in trauma. In this video I share some tips on… Read More
